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Great news for every man in the world

For a large segment of males, impotence, erectile dysfunction, pre-mature ejaculation and sexual inability are a great problem. Everyone suffering from such complications has been looking for a remedy – rather a safer remedy. But, for decades, in most cases, people were either cheated by fake medicines or some herbal or non-herbal "medicines", which cause tremendous adverse affect on man's sexual health.
Some researchers in United States have been experimenting for years to invent the best possible method or medicine in helping the men overcoming sexual disorder. Finally, Nathans Natural [NN], which is a global herbal pharmaceutical company, which was established in 1999, has come up with the exciting news of their newest product named Viagrow. NN focuses on creating revolutionary herbal products to help treat various medical conditions. It maintains the highest standards with the effective natural ingredients used in its products. This not only makes NN products superior in quality, but it makes them safer to take. Viagrow is all-natural herbal supplement, a revolutionary top seller among competitive brands, making it the No.1 choice for those seeking effective sexual enhancement.
How Viagrow works?
The Erect Penis is engorged corpora cavernosa become rigid with trapped blood, causing an erection. An erection begins with sensory or mental stimulation, or both. Impulses from the brain and local nerves cause muscles in the corpora cavernosa to relax, allowing blood to flow in. This rush of blood creates pressure in the corpora cavernosa, causing the penis to expand. When muscles in the penis contract to stop the rush of blood and open outflow channels, erection is reversed. Viagrow works to increase blood flow to the penis, reducing prolactin and increasing testosterone, which is important for large, strong erections. But that's just a part of what Viagrow provides you. Viagrow works like Viagra or Cialis, but also does much more.
The herbal ingredients in Viagrow's unique formulation [Viagrow Ingredients] have a demonstrated positive effect on your erection, blood flow, and key areas of your overall health. They provide nutrients to assist male sexual performance [not just increase blood flow to the penis], as well as prevent many conditions that can cause erectile dysfunction and weakened male sexual performance.
Ingredients:
The Viagrow formula is made up of purely natural ingredients. This important fact gives you the confidence to use Viagrow without the worries of the unwanted side effects and health risks of RX male sexual enhancement products. Viagrow is safer than any prescription drug and at the same time has better immediate and long-term effects when compared to Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra.
Moreover, since Viagrow is all-natural, you don't need a doctor's prescription to place an order. Viagrow uses a research-proven blend of 11 unique herbal ingredients, which work together to combat men's erectile dysfunction. Take a look below at our exceptional combination of herbal ingredients, and discover how each ingredient combats erectile dysfunction and enhances your sexual performance.
The Viagrow formula is comprised of potent aphrodisiac herbal concentrates from China, Europe and South America. Together they stimulate sexual activity, maintain and enhance erections and increase sperm production in the testis. The Viagrow ingredients come from growers with only the most potent plants from these regions. They are concentrated through a patented process that enhances them to superior quality. These herbs are concentrated 15 times more than the industry standard.
Yohimbe Bark Extract - 120mg
The terms yohimbine , yohimbine hydrochloride , and yohimbe bark extract are all related. Yohimbine is an active naturally found chemical (indole alkaloid) found in the bark of the Pausinystalia yohimbe tree. Yohimbine hydrochloride is a standardized form of yohimbine that is available as a prescription drug in the United States, and has been shown in human studies to be effective in the treatment of male impotence. Yohimbine hydrochloride has also been used for the treatment of sexual side effects caused by some antidepressants (SSRIs), female hyposexual disorder, and also acts as a blood pressure boosting agent in autonomic failure, xerostomia, and as a probe for noradrenergic activity.
Epimedium - 1mg
After centuries of use in the Far East, medical doctors now report that Epimedium can be effectively used to boost libido, improve erectile function, restore sexual power and increase sensation. Scientifically, Epimedium works by freeing up testosterone, which naturally increases sex drive and endurance. It contains an active ingredient called Icariin, which acts as an aphrodisiac. Icariin helps to inhibit PDE-5 in the body, just as Viagra does. Our medical research team in Switzerland has discovered that Epimedium also increases blood flow to the male organs. It does this by allowing the nitric oxide levels to increase, relaxing smooth muscles. It also acts as a mild PDE-5 inhibitor, which ike Viagra, reduces PDE-5 levels, at a level that doesn't produce unwanted side effects. (Unlike Viagra).
Ashwagandha Root - 1mg
Ashwagandha is used as for sexual vitality, as an adaptogen, and as a sedative. Some refer to Ashwagandha as Indian ginseng, as it is used in ayurvedic medicine similar to how ginseng is used in traditional Chinese medicine. Ashwagandha is widely used in Ayurveda, an Indian system of holistic medicine. The root is primarily recognized for its adaptogenic properties. An adaptogen is a physiological agent with the ability to naturally increase the bodys resistance to emotional and physical stresses. Ayurvedic practitioners traditionally use Ashwagandha to promote gentle relaxation and emotional balance. We included Ashwagandha Root in Viagrow to act as a relaxing and stress reducing agent on the males body. By that we help the body build up an erection naturally.
Avena Sativa - 50mg
Avena sativa is quickly becoming a popular natural alternative to pharmaceutical erection enhancers without the dangerous side effects. Avena Sativa extract frees up bound testosterone in the blood, making it more active. Avena Sativa is used to stimulate both men and women quickly and effectively. In men it is effective for treating impotence and premature ejaculation. In women it increases sexual desire. It also contains compounds which are soothing to the brain and the nervous system.
Ginkgo Biloba - 60mg
Ginkgo biloba has been recognized as a brain tonic and can be responsible for enhancing memory, improving both short and long term memory, increasing reaction times and improving mental clarity. Because of these benefits of Ginkgo Biloba it is now used to treat elderly patients suffering with Alzheimer's disease and other cerebral insufficiency symptoms. Other benefits of ginkgo biloba include reducing tension, anxiety, and restoring energy. We included Ginko Biloba in Viagrow to clear away mental and physical tension prior to a man's sexual build up.
Korean Ginseng - 100mg
The main active ingredients of Korean ginseng are ginsenosides. These steroid-like phytochemicals have adaptogenic properties, which give ginseng the property to counter the effects of stress. The glycosides act on the adrenal glands, helping to prevent adrenal hypertrophy and excess corticosteroid production in response to stress. Ginsenosides increase protein synthesis and activity of neurotransmitters in the brain. Ginseng stimulates the formation of blood vessels and improves blood circulation in the brain thereby improving memory and cognitive abilities. Ginseng also improves the blood circulation in the male organs, in a way similar to Viagra. Ginseng is also used for diabetes, migraine, infections, radiation and chemotherapy protection, to aid in sleep, and to stimulate the appetite. Korean ginseng contains steroids such as panaxtriol. The steroids are remarkably similar in structure to anabolic steroids found naturally in our body. This makes Korean ginseng ideal for athletes and body builders looking for a natural alternative to anabolic steroids, and helps men seeking a natural way to achieve and erection and boost libido.
Maca - 50mg
Known as Peruvian Ginseng, which supports the glandular system. This herb serves two functions of sexual health: it enhances sexual performance and desire, as well as improves endurance and energy. Lepidium meyenii or maca is an herbaceous biennial plant or annual plant (some sources say a perennial plant) native to the high Andes of Bolivia and Peru. It is grown for its fleshy hypocotyl (actually a fused hypocotyl and taproot), which is used as a root vegetable and a medicinal herb. Its Spanish and Quechua names include maca-maca, maino, ayak chichira, and ayak willku. Maca has been harvested and used by humans in the Andean Mountains for centuries. It was eaten by Inca warriors before battles, and was used a form of payment of Spanish imperial taxes. A double-blind study by the Department of Urology, University of Ulsan College of Medicine attempted to study the "efficacy of Maca for erectile dysfunction." Their conclusion was, "Our data shows that red ginseng is an effective alternative for treating male erectile dysfunction". A key ingredient of Maca is ginsenoside, which alters blood flow to the brain and penis and can build blood flow and sperm. Russian scientists have reported that Ginseng stimulates both physical and mental activity, enhances athletic performance and has a positive effect on the sex glands. Used to combat impotence and premature ejaculation, Maca also helps normalize blood pressure while rejuvenating and revitalizing the body.
Muira Puama - 200mg
Muira puama, also called "potency wood," is a small tree up to 15 feet in height native to the Brazilian Amazon. The bark and root are the primary parts of muira puama that are utilized. Indigenous peoples use muira puama for the therapy of impotency, fatigue, neuromuscular problems, and rheumatism. Muira puama's botanical name is Ptychopetalum olacoides. Don't be surprised if you see muira puama spelled in many different ways, including mara puama, marapuama, and marapama. The root and bark are used for a variety of ailments by indigenous peoples in the Rio Negro area of South America, and have become popular as herbal treatments for sexual dysfunction.
Saw Palmetto (Ptychopetalum) - 1mg
Saw palmetto extract is an extract of the fruit of Serenoa repens. It is rich in fatty acids and phytosterols, and has shown promise in treating benign prostatic hyperplasia. Native Americans used the fruit for food, but also in the treatment of a variety of urinary and reproductive system problems. The European colonists learned of the use of saw palmetto. It was used as a crude extract for at least 200 years for various conditions including asthenia (weakness), recovery from major illness, and urinary problems. For instance, the Eclectic physician H. W. Felter wrote of it, "Saw palmetto is a nerve sedative, expectorant, and a nutritive tonic, acting kindly upon the digestive tract...Its most direct action appears to be upon the reproductive organs when undergoing waste of tissue..." Saw palmetto, also known as Serenoa repens or Sabal serrulatum, is an herb that is most commonly used to treat problems related to benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH). The medicinal element of saw palmetto is taken from the partially dried ripe fruit of the American dwarf palm tree, which is indigenous to the coastal regions of the southern United States, from the Carolinas and Florida to California. BPH is a nearly universal result of the aging process in men. As the prostate gland enlarges, it can cause both obstructive and irritative symptoms; however, the size of the prostate gland is not predictive of the symptoms that patients experience. We included Saw palmetto in Viagrow for its male organ strengthening and anti-aging qualities.
Tribulus Terrestris - 1mg
Tribulus terrestris is a plant that grows in tropical climates. The most interesting part of the plant lies in the root. This plant has been used around the world for a variety of ailments. It has been used as an herbal supplement diuretic, antiseptic, anti-inflammatory, and as a mood enhancing tonic. The most noted benefits of tribulus terrestris is its use in treating sexual deficiencies. It has been used in Asia and Bulgaria for years to treat libido and infertility problems. Tribulus terrestris is a non-hormonal herb that restores and improves libido in men as well as improving and prolonging the duration of erections. Tribulus terrestris also increases the sperm amount and speed. This is how it happens: Tribulus terrestris boosts testosterone levels by increasing luteininzing hormone (LH) levels. LH is the hormone that signals the body to start making natural testosterone. In a study involving individuals taking 750 mg per day of tribulus terrestris results showed that LH increased by 72%. Free testosterone increased by 41%. This increase in testosterone is the reason we included Tribulus Terrestris in Viagrow.

Overcome from psychological impotence and enjoy your sexual life

Most men fail to give his female partners, a good orgasm, even a poor level of orgasm, as in major cases, suffer from psychological impotence thinking they have sexual inabilities, though they do not. Many medical experts though claim that in most cases, men become impotent during "old ages", I would strongly argue to accept that point. I have patients, who already celebrated their 70^th birthday, and are still sexually very active. In medical terminology, erectile dysfunction is considered as "impotence".
First of all, let us try to understand the symptoms of impotence. If a man begins to feel sexually aroused, but is unable to have an erection, or he is able to get an erection, but cannot complete sexual intercourse, he is exhibiting one of the main symptoms of male impotence, or erectile dysfunction. When these symptoms only occur once in a while, there is no cause for alarm. However, if the symptoms persist, then a physician should be consulted.
Now let us try to understand, what is impotence. When a man cannot sustain an erection long enough to have sex, or cannot have an erection at all, he is suffering from male impotence. Also known as erectile dysfunction, it affects over 15 million men each year in the United States. Men in their 40s may suffer an occasional incident of impotence, and in most cases, it is only a temporary condition. Impotence is sometimes caused by emotional or relationship problems, but if symptoms continue, you should make an appointment with your physician. Impotence treatment options will be explained to you by your physician, who can determine if it is being caused by psychological or physiological conditions.
When a man is suffering from male impotence, it may cause emotional pain and issues between him and his sexual partner. If left untreated, not only can it cause physical complications, but self-esteem problems as well. It is only natural to not want to discuss sexual problems with your partner or your physician, but open communication is the key to finding an impotence cure that works for you.
Let me now brief you about the causes of impotence. When an erection begins, the man's penis becomes filled with blood as blood vessels are enlarged to allow for an increased flow. Impotence, or erectile dysfunction, can sometimes occur when the erection process is interrupted. For an erection to take place, a precise series of events occur, which begin with nerve impulses in the brain, spinal column and in the area surrounding the penis itself. As those nerve impulses begin to signal interest in sexual activity, the muscles, fibrous tissues, veins and articles respond and an erection takes place. However, if any of those signals are disrupted, it can result in erectile dysfunction instead of an erection.
In some cases, impotence may be caused by a disease, such as diabetes, kidney disease, multiple sclerosis, vascular disease, chronic alcoholism, or neurologic disease. Other possible causes of male impotence include recent surgery, especially radical prostate or bladder surgery for cancer. If any areas surrounding the penis were injured during surgery, problems with erectile dysfunction could result.
Injury to the penis, spinal cord, prostate, bladder and pelvis can lead to erectile dysfunction by harming nerves, smooth muscles, arteries and fibrous tissues of the area around the penis.
Another common cause of male impotence are problems associated with prescription drugs that affect nerve centers. Blood pressure medication, antidepressants, antihistamines, tranquilizers and other prescription drugs can produce erectile dysfunction in men. In still other cases, the cause may be attributed to psychological factors, including stress, anxiety, guilt, depression, low self-esteem, or even fear of sexual failure.
Male impotence can also be caused by problems with the prostate, including an enlarged prostate, a prostate infection or prostate cancer. Every year, more than 2 million American men are diagnosed with prostatitis, a term that means "inflammation of the prostate." A few men with prostatitis have clear signs of a bacterial infection of the prostate. Doctors call this condition bacterial prostatitis. In roughly 90 to 95 percent of cases of prostatitis, however, there's no clear sign of infection. Doctors call this chronic nonbacterial prostatitis or chronic pelvic pain syndrome. Sometimes men suffering from prostate problems will have difficulty getting and sustaining an erection.
It is not suggested to simply come to the conclusion that you are suffering from impotence, when on one or even several occasion, you fail to get erection. Such things can happen, even if you are in heavy mental stress or even could be resulted from extreme physical hard work. In any case, before you start taking erectile medicines, such as "Viagra", please make sure that you are suffering from impotence. If you suspect you may be suffering from impotence, or erectile dysfunction, your physician can conduct a series of exams and tests to determine if that is the cause of your erection difficulties. The physician will begin by reviewing both your medical and sexual history. It is important to be honest with your physician, no matter how embarrassed you feel talking about the subject. Your physician is there to help you, so make sure you give all of the facts. For example, you may have problems associated with your sexual desires, your ability to maintain an erection, ejaculation or orgasm. Your physician will also review any other medical conditions that you may have that might be the cause of your male impotence, or erectile dysfunction. Drug interference with a man's ability to have an erection accounts for one-fourth of all male impotence cases.
Your physician will also conduct a physical exam. It is possible that your penis is not responding to touching, which could indicate a problem in the nervous system. In other cases, abnormal secondary sex characteristics, such as hair pattern or breast enlargement, can point to hormonal problems. If this is the case, your physician may suspect that your endocrine system is involved.
If your penis has a slight curve or bends to one side, your erection dysfunction could be the result of Peyronie's disease.
If your physician suspects other causes, lab tests will be ordered to help confirm the diagnosis of erectile dysfunction, or male impotence. Tests for systemic diseases include blood counts, urinalysis, lipid profile, and measurements of creatinine and liver enzymes. If your physician suspects there may be a problem with your prostate, he may collect a sample after massaging the prostate, in addition to a routine urine sample. This special sample will contain secretions from the prostate -- and, perhaps, a few clues to the condition. Among patients with chronic bacterial prostatitis, cultures from the post-massage urine sample may be positive for bacteria. If a patient has chronic nonbacterial prostatitis, the sample will usually have high levels of white blood cells, which are a sign of inflammation.
And finally, if your physician suspects that your erectile dysfunction problem may be psychological, a test, which includes an interview and a questionnaire, will reveal certain psychological factors to help uncover the reason for the problem. In addition, the man's sexual partner may also be interviewed, to help determine sexual expectations and perceptions during intercourse.
Now let me discuss how to treat impotence. In many cases of impotence, it is a matter of changing blood pressure medication to fix the problem. If other treatments are needed, most physicians will seek treatment ranging from the least invasive to the most invasive. Psychotherapy and behavior modifications may also be considered as a treatment, or, if the case warrants, prescription drugs may be prescribed.
The Food and Drug Administration recently approved several drugs that can assist in most cases of erectile dysfunction. Viagra was approved in 1998, and in 2003, Levitra was allowed on the market, followed by a third medication for erectile dysfunction, Cialis. These drugs work by enhancing the effects of nitric oxide, a chemical that relaxes smooth muscles in the penis during sexual stimulation and allows increased blood flow.
As a medical practitioner, dealing with at least a few thousand patients, coming to me with the conclusions of suffering from impotence, are returning home with a vigorous mind and joy of actually being a very normal person. Most of them suffer from lack of sexual knowledge, which not only makes them unhappy in conjugal life, but equally makes their female partners uncomfortable.
The next problem, men also come with is pre-mature ejaculation, which is no less painful than impotence to many. Let us first try to understand, exactly what pre-mature ejaculation is. But before discussing this issue further, let me tell all of you that, pre-mature ejaculation is not at all any serious issue of fear. It is all a mere psychological problem.
Premature ejaculation is uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration, with minimal sexual stimulation and before the person wishes. It may result in an unsatisfactory sexual experience for both partners. This can increase the anxiety that may contribute to the problem. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common forms of male sexual dysfunction and has probably affected every man at some point in his life.
What causes premature ejaculation?
Most cases of premature ejaculation do not have a clear cause. With sexual experience and age, men often learn to delay orgasm. Premature ejaculation may occur with a new partner, only in certain sexual situations, or if it has been a long time since the last ejaculation. Psychological factors such as anxiety, guilt, or depression can cause premature ejaculation. In some cases, premature ejaculation may be related to an underlying medical cause such as hormonal problems, injury, or a side effect of certain medicines.
What are the symptoms?
The main symptom of premature ejaculation is an uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after intercourse begins. Ejaculation occurs before the person wishes it, with minimal sexual stimulation.
How is premature ejaculation diagnosed?
Your doctor will discuss your medical and sexual history with you and conduct a thorough physical examination. Your doctor may want to talk to your partner also. Because premature ejaculation can have many causes, your doctor may order laboratory tests to rule out any other medical problem.
How is it treated?
In many cases premature ejaculation resolves on its own over time without the need for medical treatment. Practicing relaxation techniques or using distraction methods may help you delay ejaculation. For some men, stopping or cutting down on the use of alcohol, tobacco, or illegal drugs may improve their ability to control ejaculation. I always suggest my patients, who complain of pre-mature ejaculation, to quit smoking. In my opinion, smoking is the worst cause of pre-mature ejaculation as well as sexual disorders, alongside series of other physical complications.
Your doctor may recommend that you and your partner practice specific techniques to help delay ejaculation. These techniques may involve identifying and controlling the sensations that lead up to ejaculation and communicating to slow or stop stimulation. Other options include using a condom to reduce sensation to the penis or trying a different position (such as lying on your back) during intercourse. Counseling or behavioral therapy may help reduce anxiety related to premature ejaculation.
Well, my friends, many of you should already be feeling free from anxiety of being thinking of suffering from impotence or pre-mature ejaculation. Now, let me try to give you a number of good tips on how to give better orgasms to your female partners. During my 47-years as medical practitioner, dealing with thousands of patients, I have witnessed almost 97 percent of my patients, who followed my suggestions, came back to tell me that, they were enjoying "excellent" sexual life. It seems to me that most of the sexually active men worry about giving best orgasms, or even multiple orgasms. What's more is that it's almost assumed that men have the necessary skills and abilities to give a woman an "O" face and make her come again and again. There's a lot of pressure today for men to perform well and to know how to give a girl what she wants.
For some women multiple orgasms are like candy: they're addictive, sweet and very satisfying. Orgasms that occur in succession, a steady stream of one after the other, are called the "serial multiple." The "sequential orgasm" can be like a roller coaster ride interspersed with peaks and lulls with a few minutes between each incredible burst of ecstasy. Female orgasms can also be like scaling Mount Everest, a continuous build-up to one incredible peak.
All forms of orgasms are attainable, but it is up to the woman's biology and preference to do so. It is folly to assume that she wants to ride that roller coaster or just scale Everest once in an evening. It is very important to communicate with her about what she wants and desires. Talk to her, listen to her and let her know that you want to pleasure her in the ways she wants. If she wants you to give her multiple orgasms, keep reading and put yourself in the know.
Proper atmosphere is an important issue:
Her comfort is paramount. In order to give her multiple orgasms, she'll need to surrender herself to the experience, and she'll need to be at ease to do so. You can help calm her mind and quell her inhibitions with a little environmental preparation that's sure to put her on the road to sexual bliss. Clean sheets, downy pillows, tissues by the bed, soft lighting, and subtle scents in the air will aid in creating that easy atmosphere. Take a few minutes to clean your pad, take a shower and shave before she arrives. Also, set your cell phone to silent or turn it off. Finally, if she is a new or newer lover; cut the cord and remove any pictures that remain of your ex.
She will explode:
While her body rests from its latest mind-blowing peak, keep the momentum and energy going with your mouth, mind, lips, and tongue. OK, you could go down on her, but I'm talking about keeping her mind sexually engaged and her body humming with sweet words. You will be able to maintain her physical desire if you describe and tell her how amazing she feels, how incredible she looks as she explodes, and how she's driving you insane with her beautiful body. Be creative and inventive with your words. Women enjoy feeling a strong and firm grip on their body, so take hold of her as you ready her body for yet another orgasm. She'll appreciate your pillow talk and physical desire. The sexier and more comfortable she feels, the more she'll let go.
Different variations:
If you know the kind of stimulation she likes, such as clitoral, vaginal or G-spot, it may be wise to keep it that way and just change the position or technique. This will help you give her multiple orgasms. For example, if your girl achieved her last orgasm quickly and easily through clitoral stimulation, hit the same trigger, but try a different angle or speed. This will effectively aid her in reaching another intense orgasm. Conversely, if she has received a lot of clitoral stimulation she may want a break from her little bud being constantly massaged or manipulated. In this case, a vaginal or G-spot rub may hit the spot. Understand that after orgasm some women may experience an almost uncomfortably or unbearably sensitive clitoris. She may not want continued touching in that area. When and if this occurs, attend to another sweet spot while her bundle of nerves recovers. Here, communication continues to be a key point.
Devote to her:
Help her to understand that the night is all about her pleasure. Make her feel that you have the entire night to devote to her satisfaction. Pay no attention to the time it takes. Your patience will have multiple payoffs (i.e. give her multiple orgasms), but if she feels rushed, she will be less inclined to relax and feel comfortable -- feelings that are not conducive to achieving multiples orgasms. An excellent way to emphasize how much you enjoy making her feel good and to show her that it really is "all about her" is to bring her to orgasm before penetration. She will feel that you really do want her to reach great heights throughout the night, and that you consider your satisfaction secondary -- don't worry, when's she has had enough you'll get yours.
Let her decide:
Remember: Orgasms are for her all night. If she wants a lot of little explosions or one huge inferno, it is for her to decide. This isn't the time to flex your sexual prowess and try to make your woman come over and over if she doesn't want to -- she might prefer the one peak. Remember that the goal is her satisfaction, not your ego's inflation by hearing her scream out repeatedly. Just listen to her or ask. Don't assume that you know what she wants and how she wants it. Take your time and you'll give her multiple orgasms.
Friends, hope these tips will be useful to you. Keep reading my future write ups here on these issues. Enjoy a healthy and vigorous sexual life.



Some tips to women for better sex:
If you have never tried masturbation, or you want to do it in such a way that will be more pleasurable and satisfying then it has been in the past, then you might need to plan how and when to do it, rather than leave it to chance. For a start, you need to ensure that you're going to have adequate time to yourself and that you won't be interrupted at the middle of doing this.
- Begin by taking a shower, or a long, luxurious, scented bath. Soap your body all over and enjoy touching your breasts and your genitals in particular.
- Dry yourself carefully, then rub your favourite lotion all over your body. Keep touching your body everywhere - it might be a good idea to stand in front of a mirror while you do it. This is your body – a body capable of giving you great pleasure – so enjoy looking at it and getting used to the sight and feel of it.
- At this point, as long as you know that you're in no danger of being disturbed, move to your bedroom. Make sure that it is warm and comfortable. Put on some relaxing music if you like. And just enjoy yourself.
- Lie down on your bed and use a mirror to look at your private and intimate places.
- Gently spread your labia: you may want to use a spot of lubrication There are very nice modern ones that increase the sensuouness of the occasion – such as Wet, Liquid Silk and Pjur. But if you don't have any lubrication, then use saliva.
Try to tighten and relax the muscles at the base of the pelvis.
- If you find it difficult to know whether you're doing this successfully, try inserting a couple of fingers inside your vagina. That way, you'll be able to feel whether you're tightening and relaxing the muscles or not. Many women much prefer masturbation if they can feel some bulk in the vagina at the same time as they stimulate the clitoris – so touching you internally might feel very good indeed.
- If you now tighten and relax the muscles in rapid succession you will feel contractions of the kind that many women experience when having an orgasm.
- You might also notice a warm sensation in your abdomen. Try touching yourself all over your body, including the breasts and your genitals where you will quickly find the most sensitive spots. In particular, experiment near the opening of the vagina and clitoris and stimulate yourself in whatever way feels best. So long as you do not rush, and you are keeping relaxed, then your own fingers will automatically do the right thing and will move with the right amount of speed and intensity for you.
- Try to familiarise yourself with exactly how touching yourself makes you feel. Ignore everything around you. Just think about what is going on inside you, or fantasise about making love with someone you care for, or with a celebrity, or in some gorgeous and romantic place.
- While you touch yourself, you might like to look at something that turns you on - pictures, perhaps, a film; even a sexy book. Interestingly men and women differ somewhat is what they find arousing. Most men like graphic pictures of sexy women or of people having sex. Women are frequently much more turned on by words – so an erotic novel can often increase a woman's pleasure.
- If, as is likely, your sexual tension rises, keep going. If you have never previously masturbated to orgasm, you might suddenly feel tired and want to stop. Or you may be nervous about the build up of excitement in your body. Don't worry about this. Just take your time. And if you don't want to go on right now, then that's fine. You can always try again another day. Eventually, the pleasant feelings will build up and you'll be comfortable with this and increasingly excited and you won't want to stop. When that happens, you will almost certainly suddenly experience a huge rush of ecstatic feeling and you will bring yourself to orgasm.
For some women it is not enough to just use their fingers - they like to use sex aids as well. A vibrator may be useful, or you could try stimulating yourself with the hand spray when you are in the shower. Use your fingers at the same time. If they follow the guidelines above, almost everyone should be able to learn to masturbate and have an orgasm. But remember, these are only guidelines. Experiment yourself and you may find even better ways to turn yourself on.